five years

Five years ago today, I went on my first date with Em. We sat and chatted honestly and openly over a sushi feast at a hole-in-the-wall restaurant in Springfield. Shortly after that, while at a gay marriage rally on the campus where I work, Em proposed. It was a joke, but then we held hands and I could feel the electricity between us. Ever since, we have been inseparable. I am grateful to have a partner who lets me be me, in all of the ways I am unique and weird and special, as well as someone who lifts me up when I am feeling less than me, someone who pushes me forward when they know I could be more and do more than I am in that moment, and someone who allows me to push them too. I've never doubted for a second the strength of our bond and the commitment of our love. We are the foundation upon which our house is built - no matter where we go or what we do, the effort is solid because we're in it together. We are blessed to have friends and family who hold us up, support us and cheer us on, especially when things aren't easy. And we have each other. The best friends neither one of us knew we needed.

I feel like I am the luckiest person in the world. Every day. And now we're engaged. And getting married. Next year, we're going to seal this unshakable bond in front of God and family and friends. It seems like the next logical step in the progression of us. A friend of ours joked with us very early on in our relationship, when the first "we" appeared in our conversation, that we were just like all the other couples of the world, hopelessly devoted to losing ourselves in our we-ness. We are doing this, we are feeling that, we like this, we don't like that. I always feared the we. I was afraid that wrapping myself up in that sort of commitment meant the inevitable loss of me. I see friends and acquaintances become part of a we and lose their me. This was something I was determined to avoid. What I have found with Em is the perfect balance. We do think things, we do share feelings and we do have a plan that we have created together. But I am also me - wild, individualistic, stubborn, creative, fiery and bold. And Em is also Em - patient, sweet, thoughtful, quiet, brilliant and full of compassion. I like that together we are us. There isn't a way for me to articulate it other than saying that. We are us. We have made it. This is forever. I love you, Em.

10 comments:

  1. YAY! Congrats to y'all! God bless you both and the happiness you share as long as you both shall live!

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  2. Congratulations you two. I can’t wait to crash your wedding. Lovely pictures especially the one with Em sporting a Yankees cap.

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  3. I love you, Ginger. I hate that picture of me in a Yankees hat, it's going to give me a bad reputation just like Cha Cha DiGregorio...

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  4. congratulations to you both - that is wonderful news! looking forward to reading about the creative and beautiful wedding you're sure to put together! xxx

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  5. Meaghan, this is such a beautiful love letter. Happy anniversary (and hugs!) to you both!

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  6. I like you two. Happy anniversary.

    P.S. - Em, I was going to ASK what the deal is with that Yankees hat! Did you lose a bet?

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  7. I did indeed lose a bet otherwise I wouldn't be caught dead in Yankees anything.

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